You wouldn’t think we had much to be afraid of in our modern everyday lives, but is fear playing a bigger part in your life than it should?
When you think of fear, you think of phobias like a fear of flying, or of clowns, but many of us are letting fear rule our decisions and hold us back from creating the lives we want to be living.
You don’t have to have big fears for this to happen.
Most people are held back by a fear of what other people will think, or a fear of how their lives will change.
These fears are hard to get a grip on. They aren’t quite tangible. When we start working on our goals fear kicks in and says “are you sure that’s a good idea?”
This is fear that we can safely ignore. You aren’t going to get severely injured by setting up a blog on a topic your passionate about or applying for that promotion or showing up for the dance class. BUT your pride might get hurt, you might be turned down, write something that someone doesn’t agree with, or look a bit silly.
Our fear keeps us safe. It keeps us in a place that is familiar, your fear doesn’t care if you’re totally miserable, on the other side of your dreams is a totally unknown place. Familiar is safe.
So how can we learn to move through the fear of looking silly, being rejected or people not liking us? We have to practice doing it anyway.
“All you need is 20 seconds of insane courage”
20 seconds is all it takes, often even less. Hit the publish button, open the door, pick up the phone, show up and give it a go. What is the worst that could happen?
The great thing is that the more often you have those 20 seconds of insane courage, the more often you battle your fear, the more you practice, the easier it becomes. You’ll find the things that used to scare you are easy now. You’ll be a regular at dance class, you’ll be putting yourself out there and creating new wonderful experiences over and over again.
The thing is, that fear never really goes away. It’s with us for a reason, and we’ll always have things that scare us. But in our lives today we need to be mindful that our fear does not control us. That it doesn’t keep us from living our best lives, because our best life lies out of our comfort zone. We have to step outside of our normal and put ourselves in situations that give us the chance to grow, but also offer opportunity for rejection, and disappointment.
Don’t let fear hold you back, let it be a chance for you to say YES. All you need is 20 seconds of insane courage and I promise you something great will come of it.
Your turn, let me know how you battle fear in your life – leave me a comment!